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8-Week Group Coaching Programme
Would you
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The Programme at a Glance
Central question
Would you date yourself?
Format
Calls · Content · Workbook
Group size
Up to 9 per cohort
Duration
8 weeks
Language
English · Nederlands
Location
Virtual · Worldwide
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The Unspoken challenge
You want love. So why isn't it happening?
From feeling invisible to getting noticed. From nights spent alone, hopelessly scrolling through shallow Grindr profiles that leave you feeling even more lonely and disconnected, to becoming someone who goes out and confidently meets people.
Already confident approaching guys you find attractive, but you haven't been able to put a ring on it? Sometimes, the thing stopping a real connection is what you're unconsciously signalling before you've said a word. You will identify and break those patterns.
Many gay men experience what psychologists call emotional delay;
postponing emotional development because first, we had to learn how to survive in a heteronormative world.
That survival came at a cost. And it's a price you might still be paying in your dating life.
What is The Boyfriend Formula?
Relationship Coaching
for gay men
An online coaching program for professional gay men who are sick and tired of ghosting, rejection and the casual dating culture that comes with gay dating. This isn't about changing who you are. It's about emotional intelligence in dating and becoming more of who you already are, attracting the right partner, and building something real together.
who is it for?
You've outgrown dating apps and the culture that comes with them
You've built a successful career but the personal side isn't keeping pace
What you really want — a real relationship — is still missing
You're over meaningless connections and ready for something real
You want to show up fully — in dating, conversation and a relationship
You keep asking yourself: why am I still single?
The Methodology
The signature framework behind the program
Every stage of The Boyfriend Formula combines Markus's own proven methodologies. Developed over 18 years of research in coaching, therapy, and healing practices, based on neuroscience, emotional intelligence and lived experience as a gay man.
CORE METHODOLOGY
Neuro Pathway Mapping™
Rewire the emotional and neurological patterns built under the pressure to stay invisible — replacing survival strategies with patterns that actually serve you.
RELATIONSHIP CONFIDENCE
The Boyfriend Formula™
A ‘you first’ approach to building relationships, focused on emotional intelligence and dating clarity.
RELATIONSHIP CLARITY
The Human Connection Code™
Assess the health and compatibility of your relationships, Based on a 4-pillar, 12-element model.,
IDENTITY
Relationship Archetypes
Markus's original Rlationship Blueprint:
The Lover, The Challenger, The Protector, The Visionary, The Nurturer, The Carer, The Best Friend. Understand how yours shapes every relationship you have.
SOMATIC TOOLS
Neuro Pathway Work
Neuro Pathway Mapping™ uses body-based techniques to release fear and dissolve limiting beliefs at a neurological level — because your body holds what your mind thinks it has already let go.
COMMUNITY
Group Coaching format
A small cohort of like-minded gay professionals. The group dynamic is part of the methodology — you witness, you're witnessed, and you grow together in a way solo work cannot replicate.
how it works
Three Approaches. One clear outcome.
Every week combines a live group call, self-study content and a structured workbook — so the work happens in the session and keeps building between them.
01
weekly group calls
Introduction to Neuro Pathway Mapping™. Participants discover the relational patterns built during years of adapting — and why those patterns still run the show today.
02
self-study
Video lessons and written reference modules for each week. Frameworks, techniques and practices you can return to as many times as you need — at your own pace.
03
practical exercises
Structured exercises that bridge the call and the content. Assessments, reflection tools and weekly challenges. This is where the change becomes permanent.
the programme
Four phases Eight Weeks
You start by understanding why you are where you are. You discover your archetype. You break the pattern. Then you take it all out into the world.
01
Would you date yourself?
Discover where you are now, and define the man you are becoming for yourself and in relationships: successful, authentic, confident and emotionally intelligent.
Discover
02
The Coming out journey
Why the emotional patterns from your coming out journey are still influencing your life, the decisions you make, and the outcomes you get.
understand
03
Know your archetype
Discover the relational pattern that has been quietly running your dating life — and what to do about it.
Discover
04
The gay male experience
Belonging vs fitting in: identifying the patterns that cause you to self sabotage relationships and success.
Understand
05
Break the patterns
Neuro Pathway Mapping™ in practice — rewiring the specific pattern you identified in Week 4.
transform
06
Does he deserve you?
Using The Human Connection Code™ to decide how much to invest and in whom. Rejected? Use The HCC to identify your compatibility and understand why you're better off without him.
tranform
07
Make your move
The 3 tools for genuine attraction, conversation skills and managing the fear of rejection in real time.
act
08
Smart · Sexy · Self-aware
Integration week — re-read your Week 1 answer and discover how much has genuinely changed.
act
INvestment
Join the waitlist
Full Program
€ 495*
All video and written questions
Weekly workbook exercises
Assessments
Call recording library
Bonus reference library
8 weekly live group calls with Markus
Hot seat coaching - Your situation, Live insights
Small cohort of like minded, motivated gay professionals
Cohort dates confirmed to waitlist first. No commitment required.
Testimonials
Within weeks, the entire relationship with my partner evolved. I became more relaxed, there were fewer arguments. Even the incredibly difficult relationship with my father improved.
Mark M.
Manager
Markus has helped me understand that before I can get what I want, I need to first work out what that is. Working with Markus helped me work out what I wanted and ask for it.
Michael C.
Project Manager
After working with Markus I had the confidence to step outside my comfort zone and the courage to make amazing changes. I saw massive changes, including in my business.
Zee N.
Lecturer
Working with Markus gave me confidence to step up for myself, ultimately helping me get a new job and see big improvements in my relationship.
Martin
Manager in Healthcare
I recently had to make some big decisions in my life and relationship. Working with Markus gave me confidence to step up for myself, ultimately helping me get a new job and see big improvements in my relationship.
Leandro M.
Social Media and Digital Marketing Specialist
MEET YOUR Coach
Hey, I'm Markus van Driel!
I’m Markus van Driel, a life and relationship coach who helps high-achieving gay men build confidence, break unhelpful dating patterns, and create relationships that truly fit their lives.
Over the last 18 years, I’ve developed Neuro Pathway Mapping™ and The Boyfriend Formula™, methodologies that combine coaching, neuroscience, and emotional intelligence to create lasting change.
My work is built on years of professional training and experience in coaching and therapy-based practices, along with lived experience navigating love, divorce, career, financial struggles and identity as a gay man.
If you’re ready to date with clarity and confidence, this is where we start.
Emotional Intelligence
Relationship Mastery
Communication
Community
Frequently asked questions
When does the next program start?
Please join the waiting list and we will keep you updated when the program starts.
How many people are in each program
Cohorts are kept intentionally small, up to 10 participants. This ensures everyone gets real coaching time. For the best experience I will run this program only with a minimum of 6 participants
What device is needed to attend the programme?
You'll be viewing slides and content, and you'll want to be fully present rather than distracted. A laptop or desktop is strongly recommended, as well as a good internet connection and a quiet space for during group calls. A tablet also works fine, but your phone screen is too small.
What payment method are available?
All payments are processed securely through Stripe. We accept credit cards, Apple Pay, Google Pay, iDEAL, Revolut Pay and several other options.
Is this programme only for gay men?
The programme is designed specifically for gay men and members of the LGBTQ+ community. The group dynamic, the content and the coaching all reflect that lived experience — which is what makes it different from generic dating or confidence coaching.
READY?
Become the man
you would actually date
Join the waitlist today. Places are limited and go to the list first.
Join the waitlist today. Places are limited.
Available in Dutch and English
